Learning to tolerate an acceptable level of mess and chaos in life can help you feel happier, reduce stress, make breakthrough discoveries, and even earn more!
I grew up with an amazingly neat and organized mom (probably so neat and organized that she should have gotten some therapy along the way). So mess tends to stir up anxiety and guilt... making me feel like my life is an out-of-control train wreck, especially when it creeps beyond my cluttered desk to the kitchen, living room, bathroom floor and bed. Sometimes I gaze around at it all and waver between complete overwhelm and jumping up in a panic to clean until I collapse.
Magazines and TV don’t help at all. Homes and offices are supposed to be color coordinated, meticulously furnished and Spartan to the point of sterility. Does anyone really have nothing but a computer monitor and a potted plant on their desk? According to Consumer Reports, Americans spent more than $2 billion in 2004 to impose external order on their life. Filing systems, shelving, stackable bins and professional organizing services… whatever will make them feel more ‘put together’.
For most of us, our never-ending quest to be neat has less to do with our stuff than the state of our lives. When life events, finances and family issues feel ‘messy’, we strive to master the one thing we can be truly in control of – our surroundings. But although it's possible to impose neatness (at least temporarily) exerting control over life is not so simple. And perfection is as illusive as a ghost… it never lasts for long.
Contentment has been proven to be a common trait of the happiest people on the planet. Joy and inner peace are not so much achieved by orchestrating every detail of our lives to suit our preferences, as they are about accepting that which we cannot change and keeping our priorities in order. While we all have a ‘mess threshold’ that we are miserable below, we also have to be realistic about how much time, money and effort we want to expend in an endless quest for perfect tidiness. Isn’t a certain level of mess OK if it gives us time to work, play, be with our families and enjoy life?
Hyper-organization and compulsive neatness take a huge amount of time. So ask yourself, is it really more efficient to painstakingly file every single scrap of paper immediately into a complex filing system - or is it more reasonable to have a few general files and update things every few days or weeks? Letting the paper accumulate a bit and making one trip to the file cabinet is truly much more efficient. Is it worthwhile to clean the whole house on Friday if your kids are having a sleepover that night - or does it make more sense to do it Saturday after everyone leaves? Although you might be inclined to have things in order before company comes, the kids don’t care and they’re going to dirty up your nice clean house anyway – so why bother!
Besides allocating our time wisely, mess can also spark creativity. When you're looking at a variety of things spread out in front of you, your mind naturally starts making connections and leaping to intriguing places. The same thing happens when you mix diverse types of people. Companies tend to cluster staff members who do the same things together, and that isolation actually stifles creativity and prevents the new ideas from flowing freely. This is certainly not to say that we shouldn’t care whether or not we can find things… or let dust coat the entire house… or allow grimy dishes to pile up. The point is to find the level of dirt and clutter and diversity that feels optimal for your lifestyle, work habits and peace of mind.
For some folks a lot of mess might be OK, for others it will drive them crazy and become a roadblock to success. The trick is to make an honest assessment based on your own values and style – not based on what a book, TV show or magazine says you should be.
Disorder can open you up for more random moments of beauty. Within reason, don’t castigate yourself for your lack of focus, your disorganization, or your sloppy house. When you let go of the need to be perfect, ideas can flow and you can enjoy life fully. The Japanese tradition of wabi-sabi is about the beauty of imperfection - appreciating the beauty that can be found in a chipped bowl, a wilted flower or weathered rocking chair. Our western craze for consumerism and material wealth has made us a throw away society, obsessed with new trends and always chasing the unattainable.
To be honest, a minimalist, perfectly clean, ultra-organized house may be beautiful in a photograph, but it's also cold, generic and sterile. If you feel empty and unfulfilled, do you truly believe that a cha-cha house will make everything better? If you hate your work, do you truly believe that a neat desk will cure the void in your soul? Accepting human frailty and the inequities in the world is a lot saner than constantly seeking perfection!
So, what of your professional success and earning potential? Don’t you have to be neat and organized to get ahead? Albert Einstein was probably the most brilliant human being to ever to walk the earth, and this genius was an advocate of messiness. He once said, “If a cluttered desk is a sign of a cluttered mind, of what, then, is an empty desk?” A 2005 survey actually revealed that people who call themselves neat freaks are likely to earn less than individuals who don't describe themselves that way. Another great example of the value of mess is Alexander Fleming, who discovered penicillin. The man was a great thinker but his laboratory was filthy. He made his life-saving discovery after he left for vacation without cleaning cultures out of some Petri dishes. When he returned, he found that there were some interesting fuzzy growths that bacteria couldn’t live with, and that mess-driven breakthrough has since saved many millions of lives. In a funny aside… years later Fleming was given a tour of a pristine, well-organized lab, and a fellow scientist gloated, “Imagine what you could have discovered here!” The sage Fleming dryly replied, “Not penicillin.”
Be a little forgiving of your mess and disorganization, both internal and external. Not much in life is of eternal significance, and I certainly don’t believe that God will be giving out awards in heaven for the shiniest floor or the best organized office. Instead of belaboring bad habits and normal clutter, focus on the things that will truly improve your life at its core. Chances are you’re quite organized enough to make those things happen in good time. In the
What’s your ‘one thing’? Probably not a stack of post-it notes.
